The two of YOU, and NO ONE ElSE, have the right to say that you can have as many lovers as you wish to have. This is YOUR choice of lifestyle. Others that you bring into it may contribute to it but YOU run the show. NO One, and I include Myself in that statement even though I am a Dom, NO ONE but YOU can say how many lovers you wish to have, should have, or indeed will have. That is a decision that must be made between your partner and yourself.
I know of a cuckoldress who has one extra lover. This lover is indeed a childhood sweetheart and though she is now married to someone else, this lover is her REAL lover. Her husband is relegated to cleanup duties on both of them (by consent of course). She has decided that this lover is the only one she has ever wanted and thus the three of them are gloriously happy.
I also know of a cuckoldress who has upwards of 45 lovers that she can call on at any time, dependent on her wishes and desires at the time. Naturally not all of them would feel an emotional attachment to her and her partner, but she is willing to accept that for regular, mind blowing sex.
Neither women are wrong in their choice of how many lovers they have. What suits them is just that, it suits them. Your chosen lifestyle, though old (remember, it's been in existence since at least the middle of the 12th century), is still today made up by the participants to suite their needs. Thus, as few D/s or M/s couples are the same, few cuckold couples are the same as well.
Remember though, it is imperative that the two of you act as adults and discuss openly and honestly with each other what you desire, and agree on a course of action that will suite both of you. Do NOT have that discussion in bed as the sex will only cloud the issue and keep it in the realm of fantasy. Sit at a table, across from each other, and speak openly and honestly with each other and mutually decide what both of you want, then go make it happen.
Indeed she may have taken the Dominant role (and now consider herself to be a true Domina) but you both need to input your ideas and honest thoughts into the makeup of your partnership. Do that and you won't go wrong. Keep it a secret from each other (and by that I mean ANYTHING) and you will ultimately destroy your partnership.
So YOU choose how many lovers you wish to have, how to handle them all, how to handle your partner, and then go and enjoy your life.
Stay safe, well, and happy.
Sir.Strict
