Hello to those reading this. It's been a long while since I wrote anything due mainly to ill health on my part which finally is starting to turn around. My apologies to those who have wondered where I have gone.
I recently helped a couple enter this lifestyle who have a slightly different take on the traditional way the lifestyle is practiced. In a nutshell, their story is this:
They are married and have been for over 20 years. They are comfortably well off, and have contemplated joining this lifestyle - but with a difference. Neither of them have a desire to see her have sexual intercourse with anyone but her husband. However.... she is an excellent oralist and simply LOVES giving and getting oral sex. Her husband also enjoys watching her sucking other males and females but as I said, neither of them wish her to have penile/vaginal sex, simply oral sex and a lot of it.
This is a very different take on the lifestyle and I personally find it a wonderful addition to the way the lifestyle is practiced. There is no chance of unwanted pregnancy, and the sensation of watching his wife orally pleasure another man or woman is, according to the husband, at least as gratifying as seeing her fucking someone. She simply loves being orally serviced (her breasts, her mouth, and her vagina and anal cavity), and also loves (like few women I've ever met) providing a very very talented mouth to please her sexual partners with.
They are both aware of the dangers of anal (rimming) sex but take appropriate precautions to ensure they are protected. Both of them can go on and on explaining their predilection to giving and receiving oral sex (he will also participate in sucking her partners hard for her and cleaning up after her oral sexual encounters) and both have found that this form of cuckolding is suited to their own situation.
I applaud their innovativeness and tenacity at continuing their foray into the lifestyle, and thought you should know that this is yet another way to enjoy the cuckold lifestyle. Remember, there are NO hard and fast rules for the way YOU participate in this age old lifestyle. Whatever works for the two of you, works... and should be mutually enjoyable.
Anyone out there ready to give it a try? *smile*..
Enjoy
Friday, January 21, 2011
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Can a cuckoldress have more than one lover?
I have recently been asked if it is permissible to have more than one lover? Let's go over some basics which will answer this question for you.
The two of YOU, and NO ONE ElSE, have the right to say that you can have as many lovers as you wish to have. This is YOUR choice of lifestyle. Others that you bring into it may contribute to it but YOU run the show. NO One, and I include Myself in that statement even though I am a Dom, NO ONE but YOU can say how many lovers you wish to have, should have, or indeed will have. That is a decision that must be made between your partner and yourself.
I know of a cuckoldress who has one extra lover. This lover is indeed a childhood sweetheart and though she is now married to someone else, this lover is her REAL lover. Her husband is relegated to cleanup duties on both of them (by consent of course). She has decided that this lover is the only one she has ever wanted and thus the three of them are gloriously happy.
I also know of a cuckoldress who has upwards of 45 lovers that she can call on at any time, dependent on her wishes and desires at the time. Naturally not all of them would feel an emotional attachment to her and her partner, but she is willing to accept that for regular, mind blowing sex.
Neither women are wrong in their choice of how many lovers they have. What suits them is just that, it suits them. Your chosen lifestyle, though old (remember, it's been in existence since at least the middle of the 12th century), is still today made up by the participants to suite their needs. Thus, as few D/s or M/s couples are the same, few cuckold couples are the same as well.
Remember though, it is imperative that the two of you act as adults and discuss openly and honestly with each other what you desire, and agree on a course of action that will suite both of you. Do NOT have that discussion in bed as the sex will only cloud the issue and keep it in the realm of fantasy. Sit at a table, across from each other, and speak openly and honestly with each other and mutually decide what both of you want, then go make it happen.
Indeed she may have taken the Dominant role (and now consider herself to be a true Domina) but you both need to input your ideas and honest thoughts into the makeup of your partnership. Do that and you won't go wrong. Keep it a secret from each other (and by that I mean ANYTHING) and you will ultimately destroy your partnership.
So YOU choose how many lovers you wish to have, how to handle them all, how to handle your partner, and then go and enjoy your life.
Stay safe, well, and happy.
Sir.Strict
Yes, I'm still alive *chuckles*
It has been a while since I have added anything to this blog. I have recently joined a society called the cuckold society, which tries to put people interested in this lifestyle in contact with each other. I though I should bring that to your attention. You may wish to join the society yourself and you can do that at the following website: http://www.thecuckoldsociety.com/ . I hope to see you there.
And to answer any questions asking if I still train couples who are entering that lifestyle the answer is very much in the affirmative. I still believe that I can help people enter this lifestyle in safe ways so that they do not harm what they already have. Please also read this blog from the bottom up as that is how it was written. If you need assistance please do not hesitate to contact me.
Sir Strict
And to answer any questions asking if I still train couples who are entering that lifestyle the answer is very much in the affirmative. I still believe that I can help people enter this lifestyle in safe ways so that they do not harm what they already have. Please also read this blog from the bottom up as that is how it was written. If you need assistance please do not hesitate to contact me.
Sir Strict
Friday, April 9, 2010
Yes I'm still here *smile*
I have recently had email from those who have read My blog asking if I'm still around and still active in teaching couples entering this lifestyle, or not. The answer is yes, I am still here and still teaching. I realise that I havn't made a new submission to this blog since 2008 and I apologise for that. Time simply has flown by as I've been helping couples come to grips with their newfound lifestyle. Indeed, I have helped 4 couples in 2008, 5 in 2009, and am now resting simply because I recently fell and broke My left leg. It is now healing well and I'm about to resume counceling, so if you are interested in learning how to enter this lifestyle without it damaging your relationship, contact Me and let's see what I can do to help you.
And thank you to all those who sent well wishes while I've been recuperating. Stay safe, happy, and well.
Sir.Strict
Sir.Strict@gmail.com
And thank you to all those who sent well wishes while I've been recuperating. Stay safe, happy, and well.
Sir.Strict
Sir.Strict@gmail.com
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Hello and Welcome
If you are reading My blog I assume you are seeking competent advice on this lifestyle and how to live within it. This blog is looooooooooong *smile* and it contains a mountain of information. Thus it is advisable to bookmark this blog and read it slowly, from the bottom up, as that is how it was posted. Do not start at the top, start at the bottom. Then it will make more sense to you.
I have successfully trained couples in this lifestyle for over 32 years and have been a BDSM Dom for over 38 years. My training is FREE OF CHARGE and is here to assist couples to enjoy this lifestyle while maintaining their own loving relationship in the process.
It is suggested that both members of any couple read this blog, then sit down like adults over coffee and discuss the lifestyle. If you then wish to embark on the most rewarding extra-marital extra-sexual relationship on the planet, contact Me and let's start your training.
I am happy to receive email from you at any time but will not reply to timewasters or those who post invective. If you are real I wish to help you. If you're looking for cock picks, fantasy, or anything else as childish, enjoy your day but move on.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
I have successfully trained couples in this lifestyle for over 32 years and have been a BDSM Dom for over 38 years. My training is FREE OF CHARGE and is here to assist couples to enjoy this lifestyle while maintaining their own loving relationship in the process.
It is suggested that both members of any couple read this blog, then sit down like adults over coffee and discuss the lifestyle. If you then wish to embark on the most rewarding extra-marital extra-sexual relationship on the planet, contact Me and let's start your training.
I am happy to receive email from you at any time but will not reply to timewasters or those who post invective. If you are real I wish to help you. If you're looking for cock picks, fantasy, or anything else as childish, enjoy your day but move on.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
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A question of prejudice
I wish to make a statement that many will disagree with.
I know this because it is about something that is so imbedded in the thought pattern of so many North Americans in particular that it raises its head in almost every discussion about this lifestyle. What others choose to believe in their fantasy world is entirely their choice, but from experience I know the following to be true.
It appears that many feel that cock size and/or the ability to use it effectively as a lover, is restricted and governed by the colour of one's skin. That has to be the most prejudicial statement based on pure fantasy that there ever has been. If you happen to believe that cock size or the ability to use is it based on race, then you have a prejudice My friend, and like it or not, it is untrue.
I have trained approximately two couples per year over the past 30 years, and based on that experience, and on those who inhabit My "stable" of males and females I have to call upon to assist in training, I KNOW that no one race has a superiority of ANY kind.
I have trained couples from the white, black, red, yellow (and other Asian races), tan, olive, and South Pacific races. I also have seen enormous cocks in all of those races, as well as cocks so miniscule as to almost make them non-existent. Therefore if you, as a cuckold or cuckold couple, distance yourself from ANY race simply based on the colour of skin, you are missing out on a world of large and effective cocks to add to the pleasure of your arrangement. Don't believe Me? Ask your doctor as he/she has no doubt treated all races of people and will confirm what I've said.
Prejudice of ANY kind on this little green speck in space makes NO sense whatsoever. Don't limit yourself and your enjoyment by choosing only one race to have sex with (white included). All races have people who are sized just like any other race. Skin colour matters not a bit in the final analysis of lovers and their cuckoldresses. Good people, no matter what race they are, is what is important to ensure you get the full benefit from a cuckold lifestyle.
I know this view will not be shared by all, but like it or not, it is the truth, and also what I have observed first hand over the past 32 years of training people to live in this lifestyle without it damaging their own partnership. Use your head and choose people who mesh with your own desires and make intelligent decisions about those you take as lovers. In that way you will indeed enhance your partnership, not screw it up.
Enjoy.
Sir.Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls.
sir.strict@gmail.com
I know this because it is about something that is so imbedded in the thought pattern of so many North Americans in particular that it raises its head in almost every discussion about this lifestyle. What others choose to believe in their fantasy world is entirely their choice, but from experience I know the following to be true.
It appears that many feel that cock size and/or the ability to use it effectively as a lover, is restricted and governed by the colour of one's skin. That has to be the most prejudicial statement based on pure fantasy that there ever has been. If you happen to believe that cock size or the ability to use is it based on race, then you have a prejudice My friend, and like it or not, it is untrue.
I have trained approximately two couples per year over the past 30 years, and based on that experience, and on those who inhabit My "stable" of males and females I have to call upon to assist in training, I KNOW that no one race has a superiority of ANY kind.
I have trained couples from the white, black, red, yellow (and other Asian races), tan, olive, and South Pacific races. I also have seen enormous cocks in all of those races, as well as cocks so miniscule as to almost make them non-existent. Therefore if you, as a cuckold or cuckold couple, distance yourself from ANY race simply based on the colour of skin, you are missing out on a world of large and effective cocks to add to the pleasure of your arrangement. Don't believe Me? Ask your doctor as he/she has no doubt treated all races of people and will confirm what I've said.
Prejudice of ANY kind on this little green speck in space makes NO sense whatsoever. Don't limit yourself and your enjoyment by choosing only one race to have sex with (white included). All races have people who are sized just like any other race. Skin colour matters not a bit in the final analysis of lovers and their cuckoldresses. Good people, no matter what race they are, is what is important to ensure you get the full benefit from a cuckold lifestyle.
I know this view will not be shared by all, but like it or not, it is the truth, and also what I have observed first hand over the past 32 years of training people to live in this lifestyle without it damaging their own partnership. Use your head and choose people who mesh with your own desires and make intelligent decisions about those you take as lovers. In that way you will indeed enhance your partnership, not screw it up.
Enjoy.
Sir.Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls.
sir.strict@gmail.com
The Necessity for Contracts
Hello and welcome back.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length (though it can take longer depending on what the couple wishes and what arrangements are made beforehand) and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates or time durations etc as being something you must do. It is for your interest and understanding only.
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Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Couple or Slut Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress (and yourself?) trained as a true cuckoldress by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract signed with your name.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance.
Next you will IMMEDIATELY inform Me of the detals of the arrangements you have made so that I may inform any Male or Female training assistants of their need, in the hopes that they will be free to accommodate any training or use to fuck your cuckoldress that is required. These are very busy people and are not always available. Thus it is imperative that as soon as you have made arrangements, that you inform Me of them so that I can contact and book these highly qualified individuals.
NO MONETARY EXCHANGE is EVER made by Me, or anyone involved with Me in this enterprise. The reason We do this is NOT to make money. So no, there is never ANY charge for this training. Our desire is to assist couples to learn what the lifestyle is about, how to handle the many psychological barriers that may be encountered, and to provide actual training in the arts of love making and service to a competent Master or lovers in future.
Also Note: NO ONE will be allowed to fuck your slut/partner/wife/cuckoldress until you are present to witness it. The description and contract follow:
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1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to fuck and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else.
Plus, if you honestly feel that the length of a cock or the ability to use it is encumbant on skin color you are guilty of the most prejudicial thinking there is. And THAT statement is based on experience, not someone's lame prejudicial fantasy.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My problem. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS befrore you get to join her in her training sessions and thus see anything involved in her training. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be fucked by anyone until you are present). Her initial training by Me alone is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me. You may be present at night, but you will disappear during the daytime in the initial week of her training so that she may derive the upmost benefit from that week.
Also know that I WILL NOT FUCK YOUR WIFE - EVER, not during or after training. I do not fuck any woman Myself. I will be responsible for her oral training however to ensure she is also an accomplished oral slut for you and/or her future lovers. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try fucking other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. You, as a male cuckold, if you both wish, will also be trained in whatever manner the two of you decide as being appropriate. You may wish to simply learn how to handle the fact that other men (and/or women) now sexually enjoy your partner, you may wish to learn now to serve her Master or she and her lovers, or you may wish to learn how to sexually serve her lovers as well (orally, anally, humiliation, etc). ANY training is possible, including simply having you sit and watch her make love to others or film her on you own equipment for the enjoyment of the two of you, but it must be a joint decision between the two of you and presented as such to Me.
Remember, this lifestyle is ONLY going to work for you if BOTH OF YOU agree on trying it in your relationship.
Though this lifestyle has been around since the mid 12th century, it is NOT for everyone. Thus, I cannot stress strongly enough that the two of you need to decide if you wish to try it or not, and to what extent you wish to involve yourself in pleasureable sexual activities with males and females of your own choosing. This lifestyle is meant to enhance your relationship, not destroy it. Keep that in mind.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
6. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the *Name withheld in the interest of security but supplied when confirmation information is supplied re your training* Hotel in Southport, Queensland (next to Surfers Paradise - see Google MAPS to see where that is.)
NOTE: You may book into the same hotel and the two of you will spend evenings together. I will be present between 8:15am and 3:30pm daily for that first week. YOU will be ABSENT during that time, unless I tell you otherwise.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
7. This service is FREE OF MONETARY CHARGES.
You will pay for your accommodation and food etc as a normal course of events, but I do NOT and never will charge money for training people how to enhance their partnership. I believe those who do charge money for that service are, in My opinion, not worth dealing with.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
Be well.
Sir.Strict - THE cuckold couple trainer.
Sir.Strict@gmail.com .
I WILL help you both if you're real.
When I train a cuckold couple that training usually is 2 weeks in length (though it can take longer depending on what the couple wishes and what arrangements are made beforehand) and takes place on the Gold Coast of Queensland Australia. I have trained to a limited degree, couples online but obviously the results obtainable in a face to face training is unsurpassed.
So dear reader - remember that this "contract" is between Myself as the trainer and the cuckold couple, or cuckoldress or cuckold involved. Do not take the dates or time durations etc as being something you must do. It is for your interest and understanding only.
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
Below is a description of what I, as a Cuckold Couple or Slut Trainer, do in person, how I do it, how it is run, and what you need to do to have your cuckoldress (and yourself?) trained as a true cuckoldress by Me. You are to read it, and then return it to Me with the words "I agree" or "I have done as told" attached to each section of this contract signed with your name.
You will then make any and all travel arrangements to arrive at Coolangatta airport on the dates specified, and will contact the hotel I use and make your partners as well as your reservations and pay for them in advance.
Next you will IMMEDIATELY inform Me of the detals of the arrangements you have made so that I may inform any Male or Female training assistants of their need, in the hopes that they will be free to accommodate any training or use to fuck your cuckoldress that is required. These are very busy people and are not always available. Thus it is imperative that as soon as you have made arrangements, that you inform Me of them so that I can contact and book these highly qualified individuals.
NO MONETARY EXCHANGE is EVER made by Me, or anyone involved with Me in this enterprise. The reason We do this is NOT to make money. So no, there is never ANY charge for this training. Our desire is to assist couples to learn what the lifestyle is about, how to handle the many psychological barriers that may be encountered, and to provide actual training in the arts of love making and service to a competent Master or lovers in future.
Also Note: NO ONE will be allowed to fuck your slut/partner/wife/cuckoldress until you are present to witness it. The description and contract follow:
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
1. First of all I do NOT send photos of the males or females I use to train My sluts to ANYONE. I have various males and females that I use to assist Me in training sluts and I and they, will NOT be "coaxed" into ANYTHING so unprofessional and childish as sending cock picks for you to see. If you want to see a photo of a male cock, do a web search for one.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
2. I have ONE black male that I call on to service those who wish it, but ONLY ONE. This is not a "Takeaway" where you choose how many orders of "black" or "white" meat to have, with a side order of "a bisexual female". I, and ONLY I, will choose who is allowed to fuck and use your slut after her initial training with you present, NO one else.
Plus, if you honestly feel that the length of a cock or the ability to use it is encumbant on skin color you are guilty of the most prejudicial thinking there is. And THAT statement is based on experience, not someone's lame prejudicial fantasy.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
3. The fact that you have to travel to the Gold Coast is not My problem. This is where it happens in safety and comfort, it is where I supply the training and sex in safety and comfort AND the ability for you to watch as other males (and occasionally females) use her and give her the orgasms she so rightly deserves, NOT anywhere else.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
4. Your wife/partner will be required to be here "On Her Own" for 5 DAYS befrore you get to join her in her training sessions and thus see anything involved in her training. Her training will be comprehensive and complete (and no, she will not be fucked by anyone until you are present). Her initial training by Me alone is necessary to psychologically train her to be a competent slut for you in future. That training will be done exclusively by Me. You may be present at night, but you will disappear during the daytime in the initial week of her training so that she may derive the upmost benefit from that week.
Also know that I WILL NOT FUCK YOUR WIFE - EVER, not during or after training. I do not fuck any woman Myself. I will be responsible for her oral training however to ensure she is also an accomplished oral slut for you and/or her future lovers. Because of the nature of the training no one, including you, will be allowed to be present during this initial 5 days of training. Once it is finished, and she is ready to try fucking other men for you, then, and ONLY then will you or anyone else be allowed to be present.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
5. You, as a male cuckold, if you both wish, will also be trained in whatever manner the two of you decide as being appropriate. You may wish to simply learn how to handle the fact that other men (and/or women) now sexually enjoy your partner, you may wish to learn now to serve her Master or she and her lovers, or you may wish to learn how to sexually serve her lovers as well (orally, anally, humiliation, etc). ANY training is possible, including simply having you sit and watch her make love to others or film her on you own equipment for the enjoyment of the two of you, but it must be a joint decision between the two of you and presented as such to Me.
Remember, this lifestyle is ONLY going to work for you if BOTH OF YOU agree on trying it in your relationship.
Though this lifestyle has been around since the mid 12th century, it is NOT for everyone. Thus, I cannot stress strongly enough that the two of you need to decide if you wish to try it or not, and to what extent you wish to involve yourself in pleasureable sexual activities with males and females of your own choosing. This lifestyle is meant to enhance your relationship, not destroy it. Keep that in mind.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
6. Therefore, IF you are serious, and IF you wish Me to proceed, you will book her into the *Name withheld in the interest of security but supplied when confirmation information is supplied re your training* Hotel in Southport, Queensland (next to Surfers Paradise - see Google MAPS to see where that is.)
NOTE: You may book into the same hotel and the two of you will spend evenings together. I will be present between 8:15am and 3:30pm daily for that first week. YOU will be ABSENT during that time, unless I tell you otherwise.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
7. This service is FREE OF MONETARY CHARGES.
You will pay for your accommodation and food etc as a normal course of events, but I do NOT and never will charge money for training people how to enhance their partnership. I believe those who do charge money for that service are, in My opinion, not worth dealing with.
I agree: signed - (male ) (female )
Be well.
Sir.Strict - THE cuckold couple trainer.
Sir.Strict@gmail.com .
I WILL help you both if you're real.
Clearing The Air
I am writing this entry in hopes it will clear the air about misconceptions and fears that many have with anything online. I would be the first to tell people to be cautious, but I also want to state publically the following for ALL to see. If anyone can prove Me wrong, please email Me and let's chat.
It is suggeted that, if you are reading this blog for the first time, you start at the bottom and work up. Be aware - it is LONG. Do NOT attempt to read and digest it all in one try. However it was posted in that order. Enjoy.
1. Do I make money from this site or from the training I do? NO. I never have, nor will I ever make one cent from this. Nor will I allow anyone associated with the training I do make ANY monetary gain from their contribution. This is Free advice, Free training. Yes, the training should always be done here and thus, yes, there is travel and accommodation involved but you set that up. I do NOT make anything from those either. YOU book them yourself.
As a help in finding suitable accommodation here, I have found a local hotel overlooking the sea, which is known more to locals than the general public, that doesn't cost the price of your first born to stay in it, yet it is clean, nice, private, close to everything, and enjoyable. Look at the "In Person Contract " in this blog and you'll see the criteria used. When, and ONLY when, you make your bookings for training, I will tell you the hotel name and how to access it (which can be viewed online and booked by you online as well).
2. Do I train only one member of a couple? Primarily that depends on the people involved, and the extent of their training needs. But suffice it to say that I have trained both cuckoldresses alone and cuckolds alone. However - their partner is always here with them and nearby as well. The fact that their partner does not wish to be trained is their decision, but their presence is required none the less. ALL training sessions last from approximately 8:15am to approximately 3:00pm daily.
3. Why do I say the first week of training is to be with the female cuckoldress and Myself alone? It's simple really. That time is primarily used to give the woman a forum for discussion that she previously has not had. In this way, she can discuss, with a somewhat "disinterested third party" her wants, needs, desires, fears, worries, etc. etc. In other words, she is free to talk about ANYTHING that has concerned her in the past, or that she can see to be a problem for her in the future. The vast majority of women NEVER GET THAT CHANCE. When I train, yours will.
Like most things, when things like fears or concerns are brought out into the open and discussed rationally, especially with a somewhat "disinterested third party", they tend to disappear.
3.a. I also, if a woman asks, or I can determne she should receive training in, anything sexual, I will find a way to provide that training. I don't just "fuck" women. That is not why they are primarily here for training, nor why I do this. However, if they wish to hone their oral skills, or enticement, or anal skills, or what ever they feel they need help with, I will try to provide that council and training as well.
Let Me be clear on this. I do not and will not, at any time, fuck anyone. I maintain what is known as "the Stable" which is composed of men and women who volunteer to fulfill sexual activities for those who wish it to happen. These people are all busy business people and are not always available. However I can guarantee that those I use in this capacity are all d and d free, are wel versed in the arts of lovemaking, and are good honest people.
3.b. and yes, the same holds true for any submissive cuckold. In the second week he gets a training session as well, though it may be necessary to have also his cuckoldress present when I train him. The point is, yes, I will train cuckolds - how to serve, how to fluff, how to do cleanup, how to provide what ever his cuckoldress and her lover require of him.
4. Will I keep in touch after the training? Hopefully yes, I will, via email and also via Yahoo messenger contact. But ONLY if the couple wishes that contact.
5. And maybe this is the most telling and important part of this blog: Why do I do this? Why spend the time trying to make it easier for people to embrace or at least try this lifestyle? Simply because I'm one of those people who enjoys helping other people. It's that simple. I have been involved in this lifestyle as a trainer (and initialy as a bull though I detest that term), and wish to help others realise that this lifestyle can help them live their fantasy..without destroying their relationship in the process. If she wishes sex with others, and/or he wishes bisexual servitude with others, or he simply wants to know that his partner is having good fulfilling beautiful sex and is satisfied.... and I can help them both achieve that goal, then I have helped someone. THAT is the ONLY reason I do this. There is NO other.
6. I am in Australia on what is known as the Gold Coast of the state of Queensland (look it up online). YES, that is probably a long way from you, but know this: I have successfully trained over 57 couples now, in the last 32 years, from the USA, Canada, the UK, Germany, New Zealand, and Australia. If they came here, and now pass My contact to others to contact Me for the trainig I provide, I must be doing something right or they wouldn't pass on My contact. I do NOT travel any more. If you wish My training YOU come to Me.7. Where can you contact Me? The email I have set up for this is Sir.Strict@gmail.com .
I also can be added to your yahoo messenger as time goes on, but that is when I am assured that certain things are in place. Anyone trying to add Me to their list of contacts before the criteria is met will be deleted.
Thank you for plowing through this section, but hopefully it has helped to answer questions you may have. If you have any questions after reading this blog, email Me and let's discuss it.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
Is A Dom or Domme Necessary?
I have been asked this question on numerous occasions over the years by those investigating or starting out in this lifestyle, and though I am a Dom and continue to be a Dom for over 38 years, the true answer is "No". Now, before all the Doms and Dommes in the world have fits, read on.
I have stated on numerous occasions that this lifestyle is for, built by, controlled by, instituted by, and for the enjoyment of the couple involved. In other words, it is the couples responsibilitiy to figure out for themselves if they wish the 3rd party (or parties) to their relationship to be Dominant or not. Some may well wish their partner in this lifestyle to be a Dom or Domme who will guide, nurture, and use the couple as they see fit.
Remember this ONE guiding principal in the cuckold lifestyle: This lifestyle choice should be used to enhance your relationship and marriage, not destroy it. A good and competent Master or Mistress will wish the same for you and your partner.
One advantage of having a Master or Mistress is to fulfill the Dominant role that either or both of you may have. Some also enjoy a level of humiliation attached to their own role in this lifestyle and that also can only be acommodated safely and properly by the use of a Competent Master or Mistress. And yes, I say competent because as in all things, many feel that if they yell or hollar or bluster or use force, they are a Master or Mistress. NOTHING could be farther from the truth.
A Competent Master and a Competent Mistress have had years of involvement and have learned their craft. They realise and accept the responsibility for the safety and pleasure of their submissive(s) as much if not more than their own. Thus choose wisely.
As in all things in this blog, if you wish to contact Me for further assistance of any kind, Please do so via email to Sir.Strict@gmail.com Enjoy your search.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
I have stated on numerous occasions that this lifestyle is for, built by, controlled by, instituted by, and for the enjoyment of the couple involved. In other words, it is the couples responsibilitiy to figure out for themselves if they wish the 3rd party (or parties) to their relationship to be Dominant or not. Some may well wish their partner in this lifestyle to be a Dom or Domme who will guide, nurture, and use the couple as they see fit.
Remember this ONE guiding principal in the cuckold lifestyle: This lifestyle choice should be used to enhance your relationship and marriage, not destroy it. A good and competent Master or Mistress will wish the same for you and your partner.
One advantage of having a Master or Mistress is to fulfill the Dominant role that either or both of you may have. Some also enjoy a level of humiliation attached to their own role in this lifestyle and that also can only be acommodated safely and properly by the use of a Competent Master or Mistress. And yes, I say competent because as in all things, many feel that if they yell or hollar or bluster or use force, they are a Master or Mistress. NOTHING could be farther from the truth.
A Competent Master and a Competent Mistress have had years of involvement and have learned their craft. They realise and accept the responsibility for the safety and pleasure of their submissive(s) as much if not more than their own. Thus choose wisely.
As in all things in this blog, if you wish to contact Me for further assistance of any kind, Please do so via email to Sir.Strict@gmail.com Enjoy your search.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Why Use a Chat Messenger?
I have recently been asked why I use a chat messenger as well as chat in a java based website. Mainly it is to discuss with those I train the various aspects they may be interested in learning, especially for those who cannot travel to take their training in person.
The different chat facilities vary in their operation and reliability and I will attempt to show you what I mean here.
A chat messenger allows you to stay in touch with others you may wish to converse with while out of the java chat rooms you may have encountered. Indeed, if you are reading My blog it is quite likely that W/we met in a java based chat room that you use in your web browser.
Many of them now also incorporate voice communications and video communications as well.
Indeed, My chat client of choice is Yahoo Messenger, available from http://messenger.yahoo.com
I have tried MSN Messenger, found at http://get.live.com/messenger/overview,
Aim, found at http://www.aim.com/download.adp,
ICQ, found at http://www.icq.com/download/,
EyeBall Chat, found at http://www.eyeballchat.com/ ,
and Meebo, found at found at http://wwwl.meebo.com/ .
Though they all work, and though meebo allows you to connect to the other messenger clients as well, much of the functionality of Yahoo is lost when shared with other messengers. Thus, I suggest that Yahoo is the most stable and most enjoyable messenger software yet available and I suggest that you do your own research on them as well.
As I am not always in the chat room, Yahoo messenger also affords the ability of leaving offline messages which the recipient will get once they log on. When setting yours up it will ask you for an email address. You can give them an existing email address or the one Yahoo will offer you at the time of registration.
I have ONE criteria that MUST be followed before I will add anyone to My list of contacts. That is that whomever I speak with on a chat messenger MUST have an active webcam. This is to ensure that:
a) I'm speaking with people who are adults and thus legally available for such chat, and
b) that who I am speaking with is who they purport to be.
The rule, therefore, is, no webcam, no chat. It's that simple and no, there are NO exceptions to this rule.
Keep in mind that these are all freeware and thus costs you nothing. They enable you to keep in touch, in private, with anyone you add to your list of contacts.I hope to see you there.Sir.Strict
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
The different chat facilities vary in their operation and reliability and I will attempt to show you what I mean here.
A chat messenger allows you to stay in touch with others you may wish to converse with while out of the java chat rooms you may have encountered. Indeed, if you are reading My blog it is quite likely that W/we met in a java based chat room that you use in your web browser.
Many of them now also incorporate voice communications and video communications as well.
Indeed, My chat client of choice is Yahoo Messenger, available from http://messenger.yahoo.com
I have tried MSN Messenger, found at http://get.live.com/messenger/overview,
Aim, found at http://www.aim.com/download.adp,
ICQ, found at http://www.icq.com/download/,
EyeBall Chat, found at http://www.eyeballchat.com/ ,
and Meebo, found at found at http://wwwl.meebo.com/ .
Though they all work, and though meebo allows you to connect to the other messenger clients as well, much of the functionality of Yahoo is lost when shared with other messengers. Thus, I suggest that Yahoo is the most stable and most enjoyable messenger software yet available and I suggest that you do your own research on them as well.
As I am not always in the chat room, Yahoo messenger also affords the ability of leaving offline messages which the recipient will get once they log on. When setting yours up it will ask you for an email address. You can give them an existing email address or the one Yahoo will offer you at the time of registration.
I have ONE criteria that MUST be followed before I will add anyone to My list of contacts. That is that whomever I speak with on a chat messenger MUST have an active webcam. This is to ensure that:
a) I'm speaking with people who are adults and thus legally available for such chat, and
b) that who I am speaking with is who they purport to be.
The rule, therefore, is, no webcam, no chat. It's that simple and no, there are NO exceptions to this rule.
Keep in mind that these are all freeware and thus costs you nothing. They enable you to keep in touch, in private, with anyone you add to your list of contacts.I hope to see you there.Sir.Strict
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Location and other pertenant information
I have recently been asked by various couples to tell them who I am and what My training in this lifestyle entails. Thus, this post will hopefully clear a lot of that up.
Before I begin, I am a white Male Dominant, now aged 67 in June of 2008, who has been training couples in this lifestyle for over 32 years. That means I'm old - not dead - just old.
It also means that this blog is based on 32 years experience in this lifestyle. Some others, Dominants and Trainers as well as so called Bulls, may not agree with My points of view, but they are My points of view and I thus state them here for all to see. If you disagree with them, start your own blog and state your views there. This one is based on My findings in training, not someone elses nor on fantasy. Reality is the name of the game.
I am located on what is known as the Gold Coast of Queensland, Australia. This is a sub-tropical environment and is also the vacation destination for much of Australia and many from around the world. With almost perfect weather (though we could use a little more rain occasionally) and the 35 miles of public, white sand, optional topless beach on the Coral Sea, plus the many Theme Parks in this area (5 in less than 20 miles), and the ability of growing tropical fruit in abundance, this place is truly the mecca for vacationers. Look it up in any of the search engines and you will get an idea of what this place is like and why I live here.
Secondly, I've been asked what the charge is for training a couple in this lifestyle. The simple answer is - nothing. That's right - $0.00. Couples are required to pay for their transportation here, their hotel accommodation and their food once they are here, but I do not make money from this training. I do the training I do as a labor of love to the cuckold community and to ensure that ALL couples start out on the right foot.
During the initial phases of this training (see the contract later in this blog) the woman (or future Cuckoldress) is given an opportunity first to discuss and talk out any concerns she may have about this lifestyle and any impact she feels it might have on her marriage, IN PRIVATE, with someone with 32 years experience in training couples, who has the knowledge to talk intelligently about it, and no ax to grind or hidden agenda to accomplish. Obviously I also do it from a 3rd party standpoint and thus am removed from your family, friends, work colleagues, etc. I can and do also give advice on this subject.
Once that is achieved and she is comfortable with it, her training, and ultimately her husbands training (if he wishes to join in) is undertaken.
No one is forced, or coerced into ANYTHING at ANY TIME. This MUST be not only voluntary training in this lifestyle, but sought after as well, and unless I am assured of that, that both the male and female of the couple voluntarily wish this training and are NOT coerced in any way, I walk away. I am NOT going to "force your wife or partner" to take part, nor am I going to "lure her or entice her or seduce her" into the lifestyle just to satisfy your own desires.
This lifestyle, I truly believe, is here to ENHANCE your marriage, not screw it up.
If you are still interested in this lifestyle and My training and philosophy, read on. If, at the end of that you wish to email Me to discuss training arrangements with Me, email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com and I will do what I can to assist you both. As I train couples reasonably often, it is necessary to book in advance for any training required.
I hope to hear from you soon. Be safe, well, and above all, happy.
Sir.Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Before I begin, I am a white Male Dominant, now aged 67 in June of 2008, who has been training couples in this lifestyle for over 32 years. That means I'm old - not dead - just old.
It also means that this blog is based on 32 years experience in this lifestyle. Some others, Dominants and Trainers as well as so called Bulls, may not agree with My points of view, but they are My points of view and I thus state them here for all to see. If you disagree with them, start your own blog and state your views there. This one is based on My findings in training, not someone elses nor on fantasy. Reality is the name of the game.
I am located on what is known as the Gold Coast of Queensland, Australia. This is a sub-tropical environment and is also the vacation destination for much of Australia and many from around the world. With almost perfect weather (though we could use a little more rain occasionally) and the 35 miles of public, white sand, optional topless beach on the Coral Sea, plus the many Theme Parks in this area (5 in less than 20 miles), and the ability of growing tropical fruit in abundance, this place is truly the mecca for vacationers. Look it up in any of the search engines and you will get an idea of what this place is like and why I live here.
Secondly, I've been asked what the charge is for training a couple in this lifestyle. The simple answer is - nothing. That's right - $0.00. Couples are required to pay for their transportation here, their hotel accommodation and their food once they are here, but I do not make money from this training. I do the training I do as a labor of love to the cuckold community and to ensure that ALL couples start out on the right foot.
During the initial phases of this training (see the contract later in this blog) the woman (or future Cuckoldress) is given an opportunity first to discuss and talk out any concerns she may have about this lifestyle and any impact she feels it might have on her marriage, IN PRIVATE, with someone with 32 years experience in training couples, who has the knowledge to talk intelligently about it, and no ax to grind or hidden agenda to accomplish. Obviously I also do it from a 3rd party standpoint and thus am removed from your family, friends, work colleagues, etc. I can and do also give advice on this subject.
Once that is achieved and she is comfortable with it, her training, and ultimately her husbands training (if he wishes to join in) is undertaken.
No one is forced, or coerced into ANYTHING at ANY TIME. This MUST be not only voluntary training in this lifestyle, but sought after as well, and unless I am assured of that, that both the male and female of the couple voluntarily wish this training and are NOT coerced in any way, I walk away. I am NOT going to "force your wife or partner" to take part, nor am I going to "lure her or entice her or seduce her" into the lifestyle just to satisfy your own desires.
This lifestyle, I truly believe, is here to ENHANCE your marriage, not screw it up.
If you are still interested in this lifestyle and My training and philosophy, read on. If, at the end of that you wish to email Me to discuss training arrangements with Me, email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com and I will do what I can to assist you both. As I train couples reasonably often, it is necessary to book in advance for any training required.
I hope to hear from you soon. Be safe, well, and above all, happy.
Sir.Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Contact
You may, if you wish, contact Me at sir.strict@gmail.com.
I have trained cuckold couples for over 32 years now and am not, Myself, a cuckold, but rather a trainer and Dominant Master.
I have trained well in excess of 40 couples in the past 32 years so what I write in My blog on this subject is the result of experience, not some masturbatory fantasy.
I also use yahoo messenger for online contact. If I know you I will let you know the nickname to use on that service to contact Me. However I have one rule that I use when using any chat medium, and that is the those I speak with MUST have a webcam so I can see who I am speaking with and ensure that they are of age to speak on such subjects, and are indeed the people they purport to be. No webcam, no talk on chat facilities - it's that simple.
Thank you for reading this series of posts. If I can be of assistance in furthering your knowledge of the cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then I am happy.
Note: The training I offer in person here on the Gold Coast of Australia is FREE OF CHARGE. I expect you to pay for your hotel acommodation and food, and travel to and from the Gold Coast, but that is all. I do this to try and enhance the cuckold/cuckoldress experience, not to make money from it.
The lifestyle should, always, enhance your chosen path in marriage, not dissolve that marriage. If you feel it would harm your marriage, then this lifestyle is NOT for you.Be safe and well.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
I have trained cuckold couples for over 32 years now and am not, Myself, a cuckold, but rather a trainer and Dominant Master.
I have trained well in excess of 40 couples in the past 32 years so what I write in My blog on this subject is the result of experience, not some masturbatory fantasy.
I also use yahoo messenger for online contact. If I know you I will let you know the nickname to use on that service to contact Me. However I have one rule that I use when using any chat medium, and that is the those I speak with MUST have a webcam so I can see who I am speaking with and ensure that they are of age to speak on such subjects, and are indeed the people they purport to be. No webcam, no talk on chat facilities - it's that simple.
Thank you for reading this series of posts. If I can be of assistance in furthering your knowledge of the cuckold and cuckoldress lifestyle, then I am happy.
Note: The training I offer in person here on the Gold Coast of Australia is FREE OF CHARGE. I expect you to pay for your hotel acommodation and food, and travel to and from the Gold Coast, but that is all. I do this to try and enhance the cuckold/cuckoldress experience, not to make money from it.
The lifestyle should, always, enhance your chosen path in marriage, not dissolve that marriage. If you feel it would harm your marriage, then this lifestyle is NOT for you.Be safe and well.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Cuckoldress Humiliation or not?
I can’t count the number of times I have been asked by a cuckoldress or a potential one if humiliation is a natural part of the Dom/sub Dom/cuckoldress cuckold/cuckoldress lifestyle. My answer is always the same which states “If you wish it to be, then yes it is. If, however, you wish it NOT to be, then that is where it should go.”
There is a mistaken belief in the cuckold community that EVERY cuckoldress wishes to be humiliated as well. The reality is that some do, some don’t, and if you as a Dom or Domme, or a cuckold for that matter, don’t find out which it is with your particular sub/slave/partner, then your relationship is off to a bad start to begin with. I say that it is a mistaken belief, and I stand by that statement, after training true cuckoldress women and slut females (and males) who want to expand their own sexual horizons, and bring their partner along for the ride.
Some women LOVE humiliation and see it not only as something they desire, but something that is an integral part and a necessity of their own cuckold lifestyle. Possibly it is because some also feel - based on early religious beliefs - that it is the ‘punishment’ they must have for enjoying sex with others than their marital partner.
Some simply love the feeling of being humiliated (verbally – as is being called names such as slut, bitch, whore, cum-bucket, cum-slut, or anything else their partner or Dom desire to call her) while others want a more ‘public’ display of their humiliation (being forced to wear sluttish or revealing clothing in public, or being made to perform sexually with others present, or being ‘shared’ with others at her Dom’s command, etc). There are NO hard and fast rules here just as there aren’t in ANY relationship. Each one is different and based entirely on the individuals involved.
Other women have NO desire to be humiliated in ANY sense. They most often see their open sexuality as something to be proud of, something to show to the world, something to use to enhance the pleasure of their Dom or cuckold partner. It can also be simply because they enjoy sex in most, if not all, the ways possible to enjoy it, and don’t feel that they need to be humiliated in any way to achieve that level of enjoyment for themselves or their partners.
So again, it is imperative that ALL of the participants in a cuckold relationship need to engage in open minded, no holes barred, honest participatory discussion, and state what they need from this different relationship. It is, after all, very different from what society tells us we are all supposed to be like. We should all be proud of what we have and enjoy it to the full, be it total humiliation or simply being the best sexual partner (for your cuckold or your Dom/Domme) possible.
Thank you for reading and if you wish to contact Me email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com
And please pass this on to anyone you think could benefit from the advice contained herein.
Thank you.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
There is a mistaken belief in the cuckold community that EVERY cuckoldress wishes to be humiliated as well. The reality is that some do, some don’t, and if you as a Dom or Domme, or a cuckold for that matter, don’t find out which it is with your particular sub/slave/partner, then your relationship is off to a bad start to begin with. I say that it is a mistaken belief, and I stand by that statement, after training true cuckoldress women and slut females (and males) who want to expand their own sexual horizons, and bring their partner along for the ride.
Some women LOVE humiliation and see it not only as something they desire, but something that is an integral part and a necessity of their own cuckold lifestyle. Possibly it is because some also feel - based on early religious beliefs - that it is the ‘punishment’ they must have for enjoying sex with others than their marital partner.
Some simply love the feeling of being humiliated (verbally – as is being called names such as slut, bitch, whore, cum-bucket, cum-slut, or anything else their partner or Dom desire to call her) while others want a more ‘public’ display of their humiliation (being forced to wear sluttish or revealing clothing in public, or being made to perform sexually with others present, or being ‘shared’ with others at her Dom’s command, etc). There are NO hard and fast rules here just as there aren’t in ANY relationship. Each one is different and based entirely on the individuals involved.
Other women have NO desire to be humiliated in ANY sense. They most often see their open sexuality as something to be proud of, something to show to the world, something to use to enhance the pleasure of their Dom or cuckold partner. It can also be simply because they enjoy sex in most, if not all, the ways possible to enjoy it, and don’t feel that they need to be humiliated in any way to achieve that level of enjoyment for themselves or their partners.
So again, it is imperative that ALL of the participants in a cuckold relationship need to engage in open minded, no holes barred, honest participatory discussion, and state what they need from this different relationship. It is, after all, very different from what society tells us we are all supposed to be like. We should all be proud of what we have and enjoy it to the full, be it total humiliation or simply being the best sexual partner (for your cuckold or your Dom/Domme) possible.
Thank you for reading and if you wish to contact Me email Me at sir.strict@gmail.com
And please pass this on to anyone you think could benefit from the advice contained herein.
Thank you.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
Negotiation
In a cuckold relationship those with little or no real life experience think that there is no real negotiation either between the cuckoldress and her cuckold, or between either/both of them and a good Dom. Noting that I said “a good Dom”, and based on 20 years plus real life experience in this lifestyle, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Communication is the keystone to any successful relationship, be it vanilla, cuckold, Dom/sub, or any other combination one can think of. When any relationship is in it’s infancy it is imperative that meaningful and honest communication between participants and potential participants takes place to ensure that everyone is on the same page, or, at least know what page each participant is on.
The same holds true in any cuckold relationship as well, and a competent Dom needs to assess what the couple (or cuckoldress or cuckold) are/is looking for to enhance their own existence. If (and this can be a VERY BIG IF) the wants, needs, and desires of all of the participants mesh in some meaningful way, then ALL will be happy with the outcome. If they don’t at least you know from the start that it isn’t what you want.
Thus, I cannot stress enough the necessity to discuss with any submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold couple what their particular desires, wants, needs, and wishes are. You may well find that they, in some ways, mirror those of a vanilla relationship – with the added spice that this particular kind of relationship can bring.
If you are a Dom or Domme, sit your submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold individual or couple down and discuss with them openly what they want the relationship to be and what they see as their own role to fulfill their own desires is. Also don’t be afraid to state openly what YOU need as well from the relationship. Then, and ONLY then, will you know if you have the basis to continue on with a good, well planned, well thought out relationship which will be to everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.
If you are a cuckoldress or a cuckold, the same advice applies. Ask your Dom/Domme or partner to discuss with you exactly what your relationship should contain and not contain to ensure it is built on solid ground and will last. It is your right to know where everyone stands so ask for this consultation. If it is not freely given, you have the wrong Dom/Domme or the wrong partner.
This may be and sound blunt, and it is – purposefully so. It is based on a lot of real life experience over a lot of years, not fantasy, and though it may not be what you “wish” it were, I can assure you it is the truth as I have lived it. Ignore it at your own peril.
I shall write more to explain aspects of the cuckoldress and cuckold “wish list” that many may not have considered, and yet are prime necessities to those involved. Thank you for reading and please, pass on this site to any you think could benefit from it.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
Communication is the keystone to any successful relationship, be it vanilla, cuckold, Dom/sub, or any other combination one can think of. When any relationship is in it’s infancy it is imperative that meaningful and honest communication between participants and potential participants takes place to ensure that everyone is on the same page, or, at least know what page each participant is on.
The same holds true in any cuckold relationship as well, and a competent Dom needs to assess what the couple (or cuckoldress or cuckold) are/is looking for to enhance their own existence. If (and this can be a VERY BIG IF) the wants, needs, and desires of all of the participants mesh in some meaningful way, then ALL will be happy with the outcome. If they don’t at least you know from the start that it isn’t what you want.
Thus, I cannot stress enough the necessity to discuss with any submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold couple what their particular desires, wants, needs, and wishes are. You may well find that they, in some ways, mirror those of a vanilla relationship – with the added spice that this particular kind of relationship can bring.
If you are a Dom or Domme, sit your submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold individual or couple down and discuss with them openly what they want the relationship to be and what they see as their own role to fulfill their own desires is. Also don’t be afraid to state openly what YOU need as well from the relationship. Then, and ONLY then, will you know if you have the basis to continue on with a good, well planned, well thought out relationship which will be to everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.
If you are a cuckoldress or a cuckold, the same advice applies. Ask your Dom/Domme or partner to discuss with you exactly what your relationship should contain and not contain to ensure it is built on solid ground and will last. It is your right to know where everyone stands so ask for this consultation. If it is not freely given, you have the wrong Dom/Domme or the wrong partner.
This may be and sound blunt, and it is – purposefully so. It is based on a lot of real life experience over a lot of years, not fantasy, and though it may not be what you “wish” it were, I can assure you it is the truth as I have lived it. Ignore it at your own peril.
I shall write more to explain aspects of the cuckoldress and cuckold “wish list” that many may not have considered, and yet are prime necessities to those involved. Thank you for reading and please, pass on this site to any you think could benefit from it.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
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