In a cuckold relationship those with little or no real life experience think that there is no real negotiation either between the cuckoldress and her cuckold, or between either/both of them and a good Dom. Noting that I said “a good Dom”, and based on 20 years plus real life experience in this lifestyle, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Communication is the keystone to any successful relationship, be it vanilla, cuckold, Dom/sub, or any other combination one can think of. When any relationship is in it’s infancy it is imperative that meaningful and honest communication between participants and potential participants takes place to ensure that everyone is on the same page, or, at least know what page each participant is on.
The same holds true in any cuckold relationship as well, and a competent Dom needs to assess what the couple (or cuckoldress or cuckold) are/is looking for to enhance their own existence. If (and this can be a VERY BIG IF) the wants, needs, and desires of all of the participants mesh in some meaningful way, then ALL will be happy with the outcome. If they don’t at least you know from the start that it isn’t what you want.
Thus, I cannot stress enough the necessity to discuss with any submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold couple what their particular desires, wants, needs, and wishes are. You may well find that they, in some ways, mirror those of a vanilla relationship – with the added spice that this particular kind of relationship can bring.
If you are a Dom or Domme, sit your submissive/slave cuckoldress/cuckold individual or couple down and discuss with them openly what they want the relationship to be and what they see as their own role to fulfill their own desires is. Also don’t be afraid to state openly what YOU need as well from the relationship. Then, and ONLY then, will you know if you have the basis to continue on with a good, well planned, well thought out relationship which will be to everyone’s benefit and enjoyment.
If you are a cuckoldress or a cuckold, the same advice applies. Ask your Dom/Domme or partner to discuss with you exactly what your relationship should contain and not contain to ensure it is built on solid ground and will last. It is your right to know where everyone stands so ask for this consultation. If it is not freely given, you have the wrong Dom/Domme or the wrong partner.
This may be and sound blunt, and it is – purposefully so. It is based on a lot of real life experience over a lot of years, not fantasy, and though it may not be what you “wish” it were, I can assure you it is the truth as I have lived it. Ignore it at your own peril.
I shall write more to explain aspects of the cuckoldress and cuckold “wish list” that many may not have considered, and yet are prime necessities to those involved. Thank you for reading and please, pass on this site to any you think could benefit from it.
Sir.Strict THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
