Hello and welcome back to My blog.
I have been asked to comment on a few issues by various people and would like to do so now.
A) ATLcuck asked Me to try to explain for his partner "what's in it for the cuck?" In effect I take it that the question is "If someone is married to or in a stable relationship with, a female partner, why and how do they achieve happiness from the knowledge that their female partner is having sex with others?”
This may be a difficult concept for many to understand, and I fully acknowledge that. Also please understand I am only giving ONE point of view on this subject. There are as many reasons and other points of view as there are male cuckolds, all of which have their own view and all of which are, for them and their partners, equally valid.
My experience has shown Me that the males involved with their partners in this lifestyle are usually highly sexual individuals, thinking about sex, wanting sex, and wanting all those around them to want as much sex as they do, literally all the time. In such cases, the male may "mentally" or "emotionally" enlist the aid of their partner in the fulfilment of this "fantasy" and this way of life. The act of having sex with someone other than one's spouse can, for instance:
a) be a fulfilment of the "partner in total sexual enjoyment" thought pattern.
b) be seen to be "naughty" and thus of immense sexual turn-on for some.
c) be seen to be providing for one's partner, out of pure love and honour, the amount or duration or passionate sexual encounter that they themselves, either trough medical reasons such as size of their penis, or physical deformity or condition, or the result of side effects from medications necessarily taken because of heart disease or coronary artery disease or diabetes, etc. etc. etc. are unable to provide.
d) and yes, though in very rare cases, be a fulfilment of the mistaken belief that "all women want it as much if not more than males do" so she is going to go find it anyway...
Please note: the last thought above is a VERY small minority of people, but it does exist and I would be dishonest to state otherwise. Also note that there appear, from My own experience, to be more of those in category c above than any other category.
“How do you know if d above is how your partner thinks and feels?”
Step one is to ask them. Remember, in this lifestyle, as in all other lifestyles, from totally "vanilla" lifestyles to the most debauched lifestyle of the old Roman Caesars such as Caligula, open, honest, and complete communication between BOTH participants is paramount to ensuring that this, or any other lifestyle, does not do damage to your relationship but rather adds to it.
So, what does the cuckold get from knowing that his partner is having sex with others? It may simply be a desire to provide good and frequent sex for their partner, when they themselves are unable to for a myriad of reasons. That is more often the reason than any other that I have encountered.
Remember one other thing: If you feel that sex is there ONLY for procreation then I suggest that this lifestyle is not for you. If you believe, however, that almost any avenue of pleasure for yourself as well as your partner is a good thing and hopefully is part of your own lifestyle, then this lifestyle may simply add that 'extra' to your lovemaking.
And, as I have stated previously, some cuckolds hold or harbour latent bi-sexual tendencies and wish to explore those as well, WITH their opposite present at all times to ensure it is a "shared" experience.
B) aaron69nj suggest that we look at unconventional (single rather than married) couples and their practice of this lifestyle.
The single couple joining in the cuckold mix, definitely does exist, and probably more often than one assumes.
It may prove to be simply a way for a man and woman to enjoy sexual encounters themselves with their partner present and with their approval, rather than something that is potentially damaging their relationship by hiding it away from their partner.
It may also help to determine if their 'partner' can "keep up with them" in their enjoyment of sex or not before making a complete commitment to that individual.
And, like others, it may simply be a hedonistic way to experience pleasure, both in a heterosexual and, for some homosexual or bisexual way.
What ever the reasons behind the single couple involving themselves in this lifestyle, their involvement is as valid as any other participants and their reasons are equally valid for themselves as well.
Friends, though I have said this before, I cannot emphasise enough the absolute necessity for open honest communication between ANY couple who find themselves contemplating joining this wonderful exciting vibrant lifestyle. Keep that communication open always, and free flowing between the participants and the couple can do naught but enjoy their experience in the cuckold way of life.
Couple that with:
1) common sense - if something about others doesn't feel right, get away from as quickly as possible, and
2) ALWAYS ensure that you are not, nor putting your partner, at risk from STD infection, and you will enjoy your participation in this lifestyle as you do in any other.
C) I have also been asked if there are cases of "cuckold couples in reverse", i.e., the male has sexual liaisons with other females while the female becomes the cuckold, with the same duties as a male cuckold would have.
The short answer is yes, but relatively few. I feel this to actually be unfortunate, simply because when it is practiced this way, normally ONLY the male knows what is going on, and it is sometimes years (if ever) before they are honest enough with their female partners to disclose this truth; that they have sex with other women (or males). Our society classes that type of behaviour as the "straying spouse" and we all acknowledge that that is much more prevalent in our society than any other form of "other" sexual encounter. Indeed, it was the basis in history for the origination of this as a ‘lifestyle’. Only when the two partners communicate completely, openly, and honestly with each other however will they find real compatibility.
And a final note: If you wish to explore this but are afraid that your partner will leave you if you are honest with them, ensure you have a good, well recommended, professional sexual or psychological councillor (possibly even a marriage councillor) present to ensure that no "ruptures" take place in your relationship but that adequate measure are in place to ensure that communication rather than accusation and dissociation takes place.
Again, thank you for your time and I hope you return. If you have question you yourself would like to ask, please do not hesitate to contact Me. And please pass on the web address of this blog to anyone you feel might benefit from reading it.Stay safe, sane, and concentual always.
Sir Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls
sir.strict@gmail.com
