Thursday, July 17, 2008

What is the role of a cuckold?

First of all let's look at some definitions.

The Online Encyclopaedia called Wikipedia describes a cuckold as follows: "A cuckold (or cuck) is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples in committed relationships as well, although the traditional meaning is a man whose wife is adulterous."

The article, found at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckold, goes on to say that "The earliest written use of the Middle English derivation, “cokewold” occurs in 1250." Therefore this is not something new, and many, many people throughout the ages have willingly participated in this lifestyle for many years.

The article also correctly states that "A man who knows and acquiesced, in his wife’s taking of another lover was called a “wittol” itself a derivation from the Middle English for “willing (as in knowing) cuckold.”

For our purposes, the term cuckold will suffice. Therefore, though originally a cuckold was considered to be a man who had a partner who had sexual relations with other men while he remained unaware of her "infidelity" so to speak, in today’s usage the male cuckold is often the instigator of sexual relations between his partner and others.

The reasons for this are many and varied and it would be inappropriate to try and state them all here. However, one important point should be made here: suffice it to say that the male does NOT love his partner less because of her sexual exploits. In fact he could be said to love her MORE, in that he is willing to share her so that she can, unencumbered by sexual mores of society, or the fear that he will leave the marriage because of her needs, enjoy her own sexual needs and ensure they are met.

Usually there are various reasons (often physical) that he finds that he is incapable of providing all of the sexual enjoyment that his partner rightfully deserves. It may be that medication he takes for various conditions (heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes to name but a few) have caused him to be unable to raise, or to maintain, an erection for long enough to achieve an orgasm for his partner. He may also have a physical “under-endowment” in relation to size, girth, or length that his partner requires to reach her orgasm.

Most have tried and still do use oral sex as a way of satisfying their partners, but that too can become boring after a while. Many cuckold males also find that they either are bisexual or at least are also bi-curious, and thus the thought of watching another male have intercourse or any sexual activity of any kind with his partner is exciting. He may also harbour desires to suck the ejaculate from his partners various holes (as a bisexual submissive humiliation act) and also may desire to suck clean any males penis that have penetrated his partner.

Most males in this situation at first fear that their partner will shun them totally, and/or that the sexual Dominant will exclude him from further contact with his partner and thus damage the relationship he presently has with his partner. If the sexual Dominant is a capable and knowledgeable Dominant, they would never ever allow the couple to separate because of the situation they find themselves in. The Dominant is NOT there to wreck homes nor relationships (this will be explained further in another post).

Therefore, assuming that the cuckold couple are in agreement on the issue of her being sexually fulfilled by a strong knowledgeable Dominant, the role of the cuckold is to bath, wash, clean, and shave his partner, and generally prepare her for his and her Dominants use sexually. A cuckold may be required to transport the female to her Dominant and retrieve her when called to do so.

He may also be either required to leave while the sexual liaison between the female and her Dominant takes place, or, may be required to accompany the female and simply stand or sit and watch as she is used sexually by her Dominant. This is, of course, an act that adds to the “humiliation” aspect of a cuckold existence and is wanted by many cuckolds.

Some cuckolds will also be required (and enjoy being asked) to provide "fluffer" duties when told to (sucking male penises to erection) and may also be required to provide "cleanup" duties, which may entail sucking the ejaculate from his female partners various orifices, and/or sucking any male penis clean that has finished using her for their mutual sexual pleasure.

Thus, some (not all, but a majority actually) will freely admit to being bisexual or at least bi-curious and having that fantasy fulfilled as well as seeing or hearing or being told of his partners sexual activity with her lover(s).

The cuckold also should be allowed to have access to the sexual Dominant for guidance, control, and/or to ask any question about their relationship that he wishes to ask. A competent Dominant will always keep the male cuckold safe from harm and will answer any questions he may have at any time, or at a specified question time. The level of submission and humiliation will differ from individual to individual and should be worked out between the sexual Dominant and the cuckold through communication.

Thus, in essence, the cuckold is trying to do two things:

a) provide his female partner with any and all sexual gratification that she requires or desires.

b) fulfil a fantasy of domination by a sexual Dominant, of both his partner and himself.

Again, if you have any questions feel free to write Me at sir.strict@gmail.com and I will attempt to answer them directly or in this blog.

Sir.Strict - THE DomTrainerOfCuckCpls